“Yes / and” represents a mindset that is open and flexible, one that ‘makes lemonade of lemons’ and embraces surprise. “Yes / and” is a foundational concept in improv comedy, because it allows scenes to move forward in an ever-evolving direction. We embrace this mindset and practice being adaptable, imaginative, and open to change. 

"Bring others into the circle" expresses our commitment to supporting each other in feeling welcome, valued, and heard. It can be as simple as inviting a shy person over to your table or welcoming someone to share their unique perspective in a discussion. In a world where people are regularly excluded or placed at the margins of social circles — especially due to their race, gender, ability, and/or social class— our active practice of “bringing others in” nourishes a culture of inclusivity and belonging.

"Step Up / Step Back" helps to create a symphony of voices within our community. We encourage individuals to step up and actively contribute to our gatherings and conversations with their unique perspectives, energy, creativity, and ideas. At the same time, stepping back allows our ensemble to breathe and ensures that a diversity of voices have the chance to be included. We are particularly aware of wider-social factors that center some voices while placing others at the periphery. Step Up / Step Back is not just about mindful speaking and listening; it’s about awareness of our groups’ dynamics. It’s about being able to “read the room.” The symphony of our gatherings are most harmonious when each participant is attuned to the rhythm of contribution & receptivity.

"Opt in, opt out" embodies the principle of personal choice and agency. It's like a dance where participants are free to join in or step aside as the music of the gathering ebbs and flows. This norm recognizes that engagement is most meaningful when it's voluntary, akin to choosing your own adventure in a story. By honoring the choices of each individual to participate or pause, we create a safe and empowering space that respects personal needs and encourages self-care.

"Curiosity over conclusions" champions the pursuit of exploration over the rush to judgment. In moments of friction or uncertainty, we invite a mindset that celebrates the journey as much as the envisioned destination. By prioritizing curiosity, we foster an environment of continuous learning, growth, and understanding.

"If it grinds your gears, dust the rust" reflects a proactive approach to addressing challenges and conflicts. It's like applying oil to a squeaky hinge — attending to the source of tension leads to smoother movement. Voicing the ways we rub each other the wrong way gives space for a culture of radical honesty. By embracing and learning from moments of friction, we catalyze personal and communal transformation.

We “tend to the garden we’re in” by honoring the spaces in which we gather — we care for the physical land, homes, buildings, local people, wildlife and fellow Weavers in our midst. We extend tenderness in action: Whether it’s volunteering to clean-up after a communal dinner, picking up trash that you see on the ground, or allowing yourself a break from a session to honor your need for rest  -- we take initiative to thoughtfully care for ourselves and others as a practice of respect and appreciation. 

Anyone is welcome to suggest new norms for group consensus. Suggested norms can be specific to a one-off gathering or for long-term use.

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